We sat down to have a random conversation and recorded it. Here’s a lightly edited transcript of that conversation, which includes a few of the qs we asked each other.

Z: You ready?

J: Mm mm.

What’s a small, unremarkable moment with your partner that you think about more than you probably should?

Z: ...there were so many times we’d spend hours laughing and sharing stories. We always go back to this phrase "up all night". It felt like we could be children together and just excited to talk to each other all night. I think about that a lot.

J: That’s always fun.

What something that you were wrong about?

J: So many things. But… I didn’t think I’d get married. Friends always said I would be the last one to get married. I didn’t think it would happen at all. I just had never met the right person.

Z: Mm. That’s nice.

What’s the most useless skill you have that your partner finds inexplicably attractive?

Z: When I try to do handiwork — which is a lack of skill — but you get really excited about me doing the basic stuff.

J: Have you finished — stopped, uh, the recording?

Z: No.

J: This isn’t always a useless skill because it has gotten us free things, but I love the way you banter and chat with everyone -- with the uber drivers, deli guys and airport security. I love watching how much fun people have interacting with you.

Z: Aww. Thank you bebe!

What did love look like in the house you grew up in?

J: Commitment. Forgiveness. Staying together even when it’s hard. And my parents always encouraging us and wanting the best for us.

What’s the most boring thing you do together that somehow became sacred?

J: Scrolling Facebook Marketplace.

Z: [Laughs] because it’s true.

What’s a habit of theirs that annoyed you at first but now feels like home?

Z: You walking ahead of me too fast.

J: I thought you were going to say that I kick off my shoes when I get home and they hit the wall.

Z: That still annoys me.

What’s a meal you’ve eaten together that you’ll never forget — and why wasn’t it about the food?

Z: For me, it was the dinner at Dr Clark, on my birthday. But does that make me sound like a basic bitch, saying that I liked it because of presents? What about you?

J: Hmm. The Mexico City tacos.

Z: Oh, but that was about the food.

J: Yeah, but it was also the day wandering the city and ending up there. Or the dinner on the little boat in Lamu.

Z: That was awesome.